Self-care is supposed to be relaxing… so why does it feel like another thing on your to-do list?
If you’ve ever finished an “everything shower”—deep conditioning, body scrubbing, shaving, skincare layering—only to feel exhausted instead of refreshed, you’re not alone.
Thanks to TikTok’s ‘everything shower’ trend, self-care is looking less like a quick refresh and more like a full-time job. But is turning hygiene into a multi-step, hours-long process actually making people more stressed? Let’s break it down—and figure out how to make self-care feel good again.
What Is the ‘Everything Shower’ Trend?
If you’ve seen TikToks of people doing full-blown spa treatments in their own bathrooms, that’s an everything shower. It usually includes:
✅ Hair care (shampoo, deep conditioning, scalp massage)
✅ Body care (exfoliating, shaving, scrubbing, moisturizing)
✅ Face care (masks, serums, gua sha, jade rolling)
✅ Post-shower rituals (oils, lotions, heatless curls, self-tanning)
It’s a whole event, and while it looks relaxing, there’s a hidden problem: when self-care feels like an obligation, it stops being self-care.
The Hidden Stress of Overcomplicated Self-Care
1️⃣ The ‘All or Nothing’ Trap
• The idea that if you’re not doing everything, you’re failing at self-care.
• But let’s be real—who has time for a full routine every time?
2️⃣ Decision Fatigue
• Too many steps = too many decisions = mental overload.
• Ever stood in the shower thinking, “Do I have time to deep condition? Should I shave? Which mask should I use?” That’s decision fatigue.
3️⃣ Product Overload = $$$ Stress
• Constantly seeing new must-have products creates pressure to keep up.
• The reality? Consistency > more products—you don’t need 15 steps for great skin.
4️⃣ Self-Care Burnout is Real
• When self-care turns into another task instead of something you enjoy, you start to avoid it altogether.
So, how do we actually make self-care feel good again?
How to Actually Make Self-Care Relaxing Again
💡 Self-care should fit into your life—not take it over.
1️⃣ Pick Your Priorities (Not Everything, Every Time)
• Instead of trying to do everything at once, break it down:
• Daily non-negotiables: Quick skincare, hydration, movement.
• Weekly treatments: Deep conditioning, exfoliation, face masks.
• Monthly extras: Spa days, new beauty treatments.
🔹 Not every shower needs to be a luxury retreat. And that’s okay.
2️⃣ Time-Limit Your Routine (So It Feels Manageable)
• Try a 15-minute self-care rule: If it takes longer than that, it’s probably too much for a regular day.
• Quick hacks:
✅ Dry brush before you shower to save time.
✅ Use 2-in-1 products (like a conditioning hair mask while shaving).
✅ Stick to one ‘extra’ step per routine instead of cramming in five.
🔹 Self-care should feel like a break, not a second job.
3️⃣ Create a ‘Minimalist Self-Care’ Routine
• Less products, more consistency = better results.
• Focus on hydration, movement, sleep, and stress reduction—not just beauty treatments.
🔹 Good skin comes from hydration & sleep more than a 12-step routine.
4️⃣ Swap the Everything Shower for ‘Stacked’ Self-Care
• Instead of one mega-routine, spread it out:
• Hair care day → Just wash + condition.
• Skincare focus day → Do that face mask.
• Body care day → Exfoliate + shave.
🔹 This keeps self-care feeling fresh instead of overwhelming.
The Real Goal: Self-Care That Feels Like Care, Not Work
What We Need to Remember:
✅ Self-care isn’t a checklist—it’s about feeling good.
✅ You don’t have to do it all, all the time.
✅ Minimalist self-care is still self-care.
If your routine makes you feel relaxed, refreshed, and good about yourself, that’s all that matters.
Final Thoughts: Make Self-Care Work for You
TikTok trends come and go, but your well-being is personal.
The best self-care routine? The one that fits your life without adding stress.
What’s your go-to self-care essential? Drop it in the comments or tag me @rejuvism with your simplified routine! 🚿✨
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